What’s your take on live-in relationships?
Is it a boon or a curse? While a debatable topic, let us see the pros and cons of the same, but before that, let us understand what exactly constitutes to be a live-in relationship.
Staying together with your partner before marriage under the same roof, sharing the day to day life, rent, grocery, and not to forget the privacy of a washroom is termed as a live-in relationship. We do the same thing after marriage, but somehow it seems different as you are married – this is not me but the general mindset.
The pros of stay together without the lawful deed are many but, the most important is getting to know someone inside out before taking a leap and getting married. The busy urban lifestyle where career matters, it is undoubtedly important to know if your partner is valuing and respecting your career goals and aspirations. The other important part is if both can respect each other’s lifestyle and way of living. I would personally love and prefer a partner who doesn’t have two buckets and distribute the work as per the gender. A forbidden line – “This is a female’s or a male’s job.”
There are other positives like staying together without obligation, unlimited homely date nights, chance to spend more time together, which is a sure pro as otherwise, it’s difficult to find time to be with your partner.
Wow, the positive points are good and give hope in a world where now divorce rates are increasing. But as a coin always has two sides, this too has its own share of cons. The biggest would be to make people understand when things won’t work out. The traditional prejudiced society will not accept the woman who has stayed with a man before marriage. Society has somehow, with great difficulty, started accepted divorced women but still aren’t able to accept a girl who wasn’t married but had stayed with someone and had a breakup. The social stigma and trying to explain to the older generations about live-in relationships sometimes go bad and have repercussions of being tagged being too open-minded.
Another con, the breakup is an easy step when things don’t work out, whereas couples tend to try harder while married. Again, it’s a mindset that is very difficult to alter. It’s us who has to evolve and broaden our mind, thinking, beliefs and support system.
Thank you for taking out time and reading this. Feel free to share your views on the same.